7 mistakes men make with on-line dating.

Updated: Jun 9, 2020

As Relationship Coach for both men and women, I hear women complain all the time about the issues with men and on-line dating. There was even a book by Aziz Ansari called Modern Roamance. Its pretty good and funny, and it is spot on how how both straight men and gay men act and behave in modern day love. Men I want to help you up level your dating gaming and crash it in this overly saturated dating app pool.

Here are 7 mistakes men make with on-line dating and how you can upgrade your profile and start to stand out from all the hundreds of message receive DAILY on dating apps.

1) The first mistake is messaging women with "hey" "sup" "heyy" or "heyyy" "Wsup". No! No! And never start your interactions a.k.a conversation with pet names like "Hey beautiful." "Hey baby!"  'Hey baby girl!" Don't do it. Women hate those type of messages. One of my female clients says "I totally ignore those boring messages because every dude is sending and saying the same damn thing."

NEW APPROACH: Be curious about her. Ask her questions about her and what's important to her rather than making the conversation all about you. Do your homework.

(Coach Michael and I talk about how men are to generic in their approach which is why most men fail at on-line dating.)

2) 2Don't start a conversation with "Where you from?" When it clearly states her location on her profile. It show's you aren't noticing the clues she left for you on her profile. Read their profiles.

NEW APPROACH: There is a saying "A picture is worth a thousand words." You can tell a lot by a woman's profile and there are plenty of clues in her pictures that can spark a conversation.

Here are three things you can say to her about her if this was her picture.

1) "You look so happy in that photo. My name is (your name) would love to get to know you."

2) "Is that Italy in the background? I am a fan of Italy. I've visited three years in a row. What do you love about Italy? Or You want to grab pasta a m favorite Italian Resturant?"

3) "Hi I'm (your name.) I just have to say, you look so radiant in your photo. Would love to get to know you."

Stay AWAY from cliche dialogue.

What is your frustration with on-line dating? Leave a comment below.

3) Stay away from pictures that includes:

1) You drinking in more than one picture. 2) Half naked pictures. 3)  Pictures with other people.

NEW APPROACH: 1) A picture of you in that shirt or outfit that everyone complains you about. That's a good profile picture choice. 3) Stay away from wearing the same color clothes in every photo. Don't do it.

4) Stop with the endless texting.

NEW APPROACH: If you are having a great texting banner, you want to ALWAYS ask "Can we move this to a phone conversation?" So many guys are doing endless texting. You will stand out by moving the conversation to a phone conversation. Plus.. You want to know if you can have a conversation with this person and are you turned by her voice. By her voice, it can make or break the connection. We are humanly get turned on by the sound of someone's voice. Try it.

BONUS: When you use the word "WE" or "US" in our conversation, it allows her to feel connected to you and that you are thinking about you two as an US.

5) Not being open and being closed off to new experience and cultures.

The love of your life could be right in front of you but because you have an idea of what she l "should" like, it is the reason why you want approach or date outside your race nor expand yourself in life. The love of your life is there to help you grow and expand in life. Marianne Williamson who is the author of "A Return to Love" says that "Love is there to show the light on the things that you don't like about yourself so you can grow, heal and expand in love."

6) Stay away from overly use of sexual language.

Every single woman has said this to me. Once you start the sex talk, then you loose her. If you are looking for a hook up, then fine, just be upfront but if you are looking for love then stay away from sexually language until after a month or two of dating.

NEW APPROACH: Flirt but don't over flirt. Give honest and genuine compliments.

Make an effort to notice and acknowledge the effort she has made to be with you.


7) Men don't let this happen to you.

Woman: "What are you looking for in a woman?"

Man: "I don't know. Some who is attractive and has a job. I don't know. I am going with the flow."

NO. No. NO.

NEW APPROACH: Men we really need to sit down and define our needs and change the conversation with each other. When you define your needs, you have power. When you know your needs, you stop wasting time on women who aren't right for you. I am not talking about physical, sexually and "Going with the flow." talk. I am talking about you have the emotional intelligence to say to a woman

Man: I am looking for a woman who is great with her family because family is important to me. or I am looking for a woman who has drive and who's supportive as well. I want a partnership and not a dictatorship."

When you know your needs and you can articulate your needs and wants, it's fucking so attractive. Trust me. All my female clients and friends tell me. It actually turns women on, and it's attractive for you when a woman can articulate her needs back to you.

I am here for you men. Let's have a conversation to see whether coaching is for you and let's get you on the path to a juicy relationship.

You deserve a happy and healthy love life.

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